10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

I found this on the internet, I am not sure who the author is, but you know what? I have almost every point listed with my very best friend in the world. And yes, this friend is of the opposite sex, so wow, guess what? I might be normal after all!!!

Following are ten signs of a healthy relationship.

KINDNESS

Is kindness more important to each of you than having your way, being in control, or being right? Do you each receive joy out of being kind to each other? Being kind rather than controlling with each other is essential for a healthy relationship.

Neither of us can stand to hurt the other one...

SPONTANEOUS WARMTH AND AFFECTION

Do you and your partner well up with warmth and fullness of heart for each other and express it with affection? Are you each able to see the beautiful essence within each other, rather than just the faults? Are you able to get beyond the outer to the unique inner Self of each other? Do you enjoy sharing affection? Warmth and affection are vital for a healthy relationship.

I've always said the best place in the world is right by his
side.

LAUGHTER AND FUN

Can the two of you laugh and play together? Do you appreciate and enjoy each other’s sense of humor? In the midst of difficulties, can you help each other to lighten up with humor? Can you let down and be playful with each other, letting yourselves be like kids together? Laughter and fun play a huge role in a healthy relationship.

He is sometimes the only one who gets my humor, and he is a bit whacked himself. I don't know of anyone that I have as much fun
with!

ENJOYING TIME TOGETHER AND TIME APART

Are you both each other’s favorite person to spend time with? Are you
motivated to set aside time just to be together?Do both of you have friends and
interests that you enjoy doing? Are both of you fine when you are not together?Some couples spend a lot of time together because they really enjoy it, while others spend a lot of time together out of fear of being alone. It is important for a healthy relationship for each person to have friends and interests, so that they are not dependent on each other. Dependency is not healthy in a relationship, particularly emotional dependency.

We both have our own lives we live independently, but at the end of almost everyday, we at least discuss it over the phone.

A METHOD FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION

All relationships have some conflict. It is not the conflict that is the issue, but how you deal with it. Do you have a method for resolving conflict, or do the issues just keep getting swept aside? If fighting is part of how you deal with conflict, do you fight fair, or are you hurtful when you fight?

There never really are fights, there are times when I have to go calm down and wash my face and dry my tears....however, he has even recently begun to recognize that mode before it takes over and he backs up the conversation and regains perspective and can even bypass the tears......sometimes!

LETTING GO OF ANGER

If one or both of you get angry, do you hang on to it, punishing your partner with it, or can you easily let it go? In healthy relationships, both partners are able to quickly move on, back into kindness and affection.

I am not sure either of us can carry a grudge, or that we even have desire to be able to do so. I don't like to fight, but if I happen to spew forth a few choice words, I am quickly over the entire situation.

TRUST IN YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER

Do you each trust that the love is solid, even in very difficult times between you? Do you each know that you can mess up, fail, disappoint the other, emotionally hurt the other – and the love will still be there? Do you each know that the love is about who you are, not what you do? This level of trust is essential for a healthy relationship.

I think we both know where we stand with each other.

LISTENING, UNDERSTANDING, ACCEPTING AND LEARNING

Do you each feel heard, understood and accepted? Can you share your secrets with your partner without fearing being judged? Are you each more interested in learning about yourselves and each other than you are in controlling each other? Is listening
to each other with an open heart and a desire to understand more important than
judging each other or defending yourselves?

Control....like either of us can control the other...hehehe

SEXUALITY

Is your sexual relationship warm and caring? Can you be sexually spontaneous? Can you talk with each other about what brings pleasure to each of you?

Spontaneity....

FREEDOM TO BE YOURSELF

Do you each feel free to be all that you are? Do you each feel supported in pursuing what brings you joy? Does your partner feel joy for your joy?While some people may naturally be open, kind, affectionate, accepting, and emotionally responsible for
themselves, most people need to heal the fears and false beliefs they learned in
their families. Healthy relationships evolve as each person evolves in his or
her ability to be loving to themselves and each other.

No one on the face of the earth knows me any better than he does. He knows things I have never shared with anyone else, and I trust him
completely with that information.